What does strict have to do with them being right?
THE RIGHT AGE FOR MARRIAGE
Leaving out the opinions on this, I’m going to cover the facts of what’s it’s like to be in a “LONG TERM” relationship.
It is a statistical fact that relationships involving people who co-habitat and/or get married prior to age 24 have an 85% failure rate. Biologically, this is when females reach full mature on the physical, emotional, and hormonal levels. At this point, a woman is fully prepared to have and handle children, as well as a male that is still not fully mature.
Males don’t reach full physical and hormonal maturity until age 30. This is also when they reach their peak emotional maturity, but not to the point of being fully independent. Half of the male emotional health comes from a woman. The biochemical frequency range of the male brain adjusts itself to match that of the female, developing an emotional symbiotic relationship.
Couples who begin cohabiting and/or get married prior to age 24 can find themselves drawing away from each other as each reaches full maturity. Their whole view of the world, and each other, changes. This doesn’t happen to all couples, but clearly it is a factor in most relationship breakdowns.
In a couple, who has made the right choices, and found that person who truly compliments them, a symbiotic relationship develops also on the physical level. There is a reason why humans were designed to be monogamous. It comes down to the sexual experience that goes beyond pleasure and reproduction.
Seminal plasma (fluid carrying semen) and vaginal fluids contain addition chemicals that the other sex needs. Chemicals in seminal plasma help strengthen the Uterine Wall, not only making it stronger for the carrying of a fetus, but also because the uterus provides physical support for other organs, such as the bladder and the intestinal tract. For males, vaginal fluid reinforces their immune system and affects future production of semen. But, there’s a downside.
The human body adapts to the specific molecular makeup of the seminal plasma and vaginal fluid. The two bodies develop a symbiotic relationship that becomes dependent upon the other. Having multiple partners keeps these functions in constant disarray, always trying to adapt to a new molecular makeup, affecting the overall health of the individual.
This is one of the reasons, and benefits, of developing a long term monogamous relation. For men, there are additional reasons.
A married male lives 20 years longer than a single male, on average. Aside from the physical symbiosis, because a woman provides emotional support, he has less stress, an overall cause of frequent death in males.
For a female, her reproductive and sexual health last longer, not only with the ability to reproduce into her 40s and even 50s, but also continue the ability for sexual pleasure well into the later years.
A monogamous couple become a single, symbiotic unit, standing ready to take on what the world throws at them. They provide the umbrella of strength for the family and the protection of the children. They are core from which the children draw their knowledge and experience of what a family should be, so that they may follow the example of the parents, when they reach maturity and venture out into the world.
This is what it is truly like to be in a relationship, when you make the right choices.
Rutgers University Study - Should We Live Together?
Cohabiting couples breakup three times more than married couples. Cohabiting couples that later marry have a 46% higher rate of divorce than those who did not cohabit prior to marriage.
http://marriage.rutgers.edu/Publications…How do you tell parents about a young marriage?
Are you in love and imagine a dream marriage which statistically people who married young will divorce young.
Educate yourself until 22 yo
marry or have a bf during this time.
if married or have a bff, have no children for at least 3-5 years this is the time to prepare your house and finances for a family with the bff
You are to young for marriage in these times. You do not have the experience or knowledge for relationships. Do not have a child for an entrapment for marriage this will cause hardship and resentment.
Tell them you want to have a serious talk and sit them down. Tell them you've been thinking about something for a very long time and come up with points that could possibly convince them. Make sure you tell them to let you finish and to not interrupt you and that you want to hear what they have to say (You don't necessarily have to want to). Make sure you present yourself in a very mature fashion so that they can see that you're taking this seriously and not as a spur of the moment kind of thing. I'm not sure if it'd be good to have your boyfriend there or not. Just think of some compelling arguments. Tell them ultimately it's your choice but you really want to know what they think and that you also want their support but it is ultimately up to you because it's your life and your happiness and you want them to be a part of it.
I'm not going to be preachy or anything or say that you are too young and don't do it or something like that. But I'm going to ask you. Are you ready for marriage. Try and observe ALL of the questions here at Y!Answers you'll see 99% are of cheatin and breakin up, getting on and getting off. I've never seen a question here other than that. Do you think you are ready for trials ahead? How about jobs? Are you ready to get one? All I'm saying is, think of not only your own, but your future kids as well. Times are hard and that's the reality of it. Go ahead and tell your parents, be brave and show them that you are responsible enough to raise your family. If you think you can convince them and this is what you really want, and you can survive without help from anybody else? Then by all means...knock yourself out.
Honestly, calm and by showing them you're mature enough for this. (If you are). Tell them what you told us here, that you've been through a lot and you love eachother. Maybe they'll understand.
Personally, I'd advice you to have a long engagement first and see how it goes. You're very young and if this is truly how you feel about eachother, things won't change in the future. There is plenty of time to get married.
just tell them that you all are talking about getting married it doesn't have to tomorrow that you are getting married just let them know that you are talking about it and want to know what there feelings are about it with out getting upset they may ask you to wait and hopefully you can agree to do that till you are 18 then what can they say good luck
When parents are strict, it can be because they want to spare their children the pitfalls of life. But I bet they would rather you tell them in a calm way together than not. Give them time to get used to the idea.
Don't yell. Wanna be adults? Then show them you are or not.
make sure its something that u really a want before you jump into something as seroius as marriage. if you know that your parents are gonna freak then wait until you know for sure this is what you want before you tell them.
Approach them as a mature young lady. Have him talk to them to. Also plan to do it after you have turned 18 and graduated high school. That will make them feel better about things.
Wait until your 18 and elope. Nothing they can do about it then. Start saving for Vegas baby!
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